Terri Davis, 36 years old
So you want to date a black girl? And, sorry to break it to you, interracial dating does not fit that standard of normal! But let us not forget that just 50 years ago interracial marriage was illegal in many states. It was only in that laws banning interracial marriage were deemed unconstitutional. Long after this ruling, interracial couples were still harassed and discriminated against. And, yes, it still happens to interracial couples today. However, you should enter the relationship with eyes open to what problems and challenges you might face. If you are willing to deal with these hurdles, you might also find that there are many benefits to interracial dating too.
Interracial dating isn't without its problems, but today interracial relationships enjoy more support in the United States than they have at any point in history. While two decades ago, fewer than half of Americans approved of interracial marriagenow 65 percent of all Americans support such relationships, and 85 percent of young people do. Attitudes toward interracial marriage are so progressive that some people prefer to exclusively date interracially. But are they doing so for the wrong reasons? Dating interracially with misguided motives will inevitably lead to interracial dating troubles. If only things were that simple.
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Interracial dating troubles
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I was first annoyed, but then offended. Look like me? As opposed to…well, obviously, my boyfriend. Marriages classified as interracial have more than tripled since , and last year, NPR reported that one in ten opposite-sex marriages are between people who identify with different races. Even though the prevalence of interracial relationships is on the rise, being in one still brings with it a certain set of experiences. As you might have picked up from my first anecdote, people will wonder endlessly and I mean endlessly what your children will look like. Will your babies have blue eyes? Brown ones? Red hair and dark skin?
Taking selfies in the sun is a bitch," says Reddit user ehs5. When you both have to adjust to a few linguistic differences. When you have to deal with "jokes" about your race. The most surprising was how tactless some people are. If we are talking, they assume we work together.
Ideally, love should have no bounds in this regard. However, we are dealing with reality and reality is that others may harbor negativity about you two. You might also run into conflict between you two when asserting your values that are based on your own racial or cultural identity. There are strategies to help you better handle what comes your way when you are in an interracial marriage. This can make you feel hurt, sad and helpless. If you want to make sure that these possible challenges don't hurt your marriage, talk about them openly with one another!